A friend of mine was struggling with a major decision in his life. Should he date this girl, or not. See, she was his best friend and his concern was that if he dated her and it didn't go well, he would not only lose a girlfriend, but his best friend as well.
His fear of making this dating mistake basically paralyzed his decision making capabilities to the point that he almost hurt the friendship by not responding to her interests in taking the relationship to the next level. We were sitting around the dinner table one night and he was lamenting this problem to me, and I asked him, "What would you do if you weren't afraid?" He immediately replied that he would date this girl. Well, as you can imagine, I didn't cut him any slack but encouraged him to think about his response.
Shortly afterward, he stopped by to tell me that he had indeed asked her for a date, and that the friendship had survived the entire event.
A few months later, I receive the news that there is a wedding in the future. Turns out the friendship was an indication of just how compatible they were with each other. My family attended the wedding, and as part of the rehearsal dinner, the groom shared the story of our night at the table when I asked him that question, and how glad he was he overcame the fear and acted.
So, I am not at the table with you right now, but think about that one thing you need to do, but aren't sure whether or not it is going to work out right. I guess you know what question I am going to ask you.
Let me know what happens.
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